Zina and Valetines day

“And come not near to unlawful sexual intercourse. Verily, it is a faahishah (a great sin) and an evil way.” (Al-Israa 17:32)

Imaam al-Qurtubi (may Allah have mercy on him) said: The ulama said that the phrase “And come not near to unlawful sexual intercourse” is more eloquent than merely saying Do not commit zina, because the meaning is, ‘Do not even come close to zina.’ This means not doing any deed that may get close to zina or lead to it, such as being alone with a member of the opposite sex, touching, looking, going to evil places, speaking in a haraam manner to a woman to whom one is not related, thinking about and planning immoral acts, and so on.

In today’s English, the word used for a married person who engages in unlawful sexual intercourse is adultery; the single person who engages in sexual intercourse is fornication. Unlike English, Arabic has only one word for both cases – zina. Throughout the history of the religions, zina has been prohibited, however its prohibition is more emphatic and forceful, and is regarded as one of the gravest sins of all the major sins in Islam and is more likely ranked as the second major sin. The Prophet (s.a.w) said:

“There is no sin after shirk (polytheism) greater in the eyes of Allah than a drop of semen which a man places in the womb which is not lawful for him.” (Saheeh Bukhari)

A person has committed zina if they voluntarily and deliberately perform sexual intercourse with other than one’s spouse. The act of zina has taken place when the full insertion of a male’s sexual organ has been inserted inside a female’s vagina, regardless of the number of times or whether contraception was used, such as a condom or separator between the couples organs.

There are also ‘lesser’ kinds of zina.

Prophet Muhammad (Blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) said:

“Allah has written for Adam’s son his share of Zina (fornication & adultery) which he commits inevitably. The Zina of the eyes is the sight (to gaze at a forbidden thing), the Zina of the tongue is the talk, and the inner self wishes and desires and the private parts testify all this or deny it “.

This Hadith indicates that looking at what Allah has forbidden is prohibited by the Shari’a. That is why, Allah has ordained on us to lower our gaze. Allah Says (Interpretation of meaning):

(Tell the believing men to lower their gaze (from looking at forbidden things), and protect their private parts (from illegal sexual acts, etc) that is purer for them. Verily, Allah is All-Aware of what they do. And tell the believing women to lower their gaze (from looking at forbidden things) and protect their private parts (from illegal sexual acts). (an-Nur 30-31).

This order to lower the gaze is for both the married and the single persons, male and female. There is no punishment stipulated by the Sharia for this kind of Zina in this life. But, in the Last Day, it is a sin, which Allah punishes whoever commits it and does not repent from it unless Allah forgives him.

Therefore, partaking in Valentines day i.e going on dates, exchanging words of love and lust for the opposite sex, kissing, holding hands, exchanging gifts, and of course, illegal sexual intercourse (with a non-mahram) is impermissible in Islam.

This practice is also impermissible for married couples too, because celebrating it is a religious innovation with no basis in the Shariah. Valentines day is a Roman festival, which continued to be celebrated until after the Romans became Christian. This festival became connected with the saint known as Valentine who was sentenced to death on 14 February 270 CE. Non-Muslims celebrate this festival, during which immorality and evil are practiced widely. So partaking and celebrating this day is to commit bid’ah (religious innovation) and the condoning of zina. It is also a means of earning the anger and punishment of Allah. Hesays,

“And those who invoke not any other god along with Allah, nor kill such life as Allah has forbidden, except for just cause, nor commit illegal sexual intercourse (zina) and whoever does this shall receive the punishment. The torment will be doubled to him on the Day of Resurrection, and he will abide therein in disgrace; except those who repent and believe and do righteous deeds, for those Allah will change their sins into good deeds, and Allah is Oft Forgiving, Most Merciful.” (al-Furqaan 25:68-70)

Rasooloolah (s.a.w) said “If one of you were to be stabbed in the head with a piece of iron it would be better for him than if he were to touch a woman whom it is not permissible for him to touch.” (Reported by al-Tabaraani; see also Saheeh al-Jaami, 5045).

This refers to the punishment for touching, so how about worse deeds, such as embracing and kissing, and even worse kinds of illicit activity?

No religion urges its followers to adopt mutual love, affection and intimacy like the religion of Islam. This should be the case at all times, not just on specific days, such as Valentines day. Islam encourages showing affection and love towards each other all the time. In a Hadeeth (narration), the Prophet, sallallaahu `alayhi wa sallam ( may Allaah exalt his mention ), said: “When a man loves his brother, he should tell him that he loves him.” [Abu Daawood and At-Tirmithi] In another Hadeeth, he said:

“By Him in Whose Hand my soul is, you will not enter Paradise unless you believe, and you will not believe unless you love each other.Should I direct you to something that if you constantly did it, you would love each other? Spread the greetings of peace among you.” [Muslim]

Repentance from Zina

The person who commits Zina should repent between himself and Allah (s.w.t). The repentance should be sincere, and the guilty person should perform lots of acts of worship and righteous actions. Furthermore, the person should feel remorse, and have no intention of ever committing the sin again. The repentance will not be accepted if it is done during the pangs of death, as Allah Most High says: “And of no effect is the repentance of those who continue to do evil deeds until death faces one of them and says: ‘Now I repent’….”(An-Nisaa, 4:18) .The Messenger of Allah (s.a.w) informed us in the hadith collected by Muslim: “Whoever repents, before the sun rises from it’s setting (i.e. the west), Allah will forgive him.” This means the repentance of the one who repentance after this, will be of no avail.

Also, one should remember 4 things:

1) Do not despair, for Allah the Most Exalted and Glorified said in the Quran “Say: Oh my servants who have transgressed against their souls! Despair not of the mercy of Allah, for Allah forgives all sins; for He is oft-forgiving, most merciful.” [Surah 39:53]

2) Let your repentance be truly from your heart, and stay away from all sources of temptations. Also, perform many good deeds, as good deeds abrogate the bad ones.

3) If you repent to Allah, you are no longer described as a fornicator (zaani). Therefore, you can marry a chaste man or woman.

4) The believer has high hope and aspiration for the best from Allah. He not only asks Allah for making his punishment easy in hellfire, but he also prays to Allah the Almighty to save him from Hell and award him with paradise for his repentance and good deeds.

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2 thoughts on “Zina and Valetines day”

  1. Dr Choudhry says:

    As a medical doctor in the UK is it permissible for me to provide contraception to unmarried women who have no medical need, except that they don’t want to become pregnant from their life of fornication?

    • 4themuslims says:

      Assalamu alaikum Brother, thank you for your question. Please note, we are not scholars or shaykhs here and we do not issue fatwas either. Therefore, we advise you approach trusted people in the community who are of knowledge with your question. However, I personally see benefit in prescribing contraception to such women you mention, as it could be a prevention from unwanted pregnancies, STD’S etc. for them. With the right intention, your prescription would not be condoning their zina, rather you would be seeking to protect them inshaAllah. May Allah aid us all and grant us knowledge and accept our good deeds, ameen. 4themuslims.com

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